On Saturday, Halloween, it will be my 18th Wedding Anniversary. My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years now, married for 18. I would venture to say we are happier now than we were when we started and our world just keeps getting better. (Photo was our Wedding Day in 1997 and just a month ago on Date Night)
I met Greg online on a bbs (bulletin board system) which for all you young folks out there, was the precursor to Facebook probably before Mark Zuckerberg was a glimmer in his parent’s eye. At first, I wasn’t sure about him, back then you didn’t have photos you could post online and so all you had to go by was scrolling text on a small little monitor. I think back to it now and it seems SOOOO antiquated but it really was just back in the 90’s.
We met face to face and the moment I saw him, I knew he was the man I was going to marry. Instantly, hand on my heart, love at first sight. We even talked about just driving to Vegas that night because we both felt it. We knew we would spend the rest of our lives together and so far, we have!
We don’t fight, we don’t yell, we just talk. His strengths compliment my weaknesses and my strengths boost his weaknesses. Apart, we are two imperfect human beings, in need of something to make us whole. Together, we are perfect pieces to one another’s puzzle. He is truly my perfect mate.
Over the years we have had trials, tribulations, debt, misunderstanding and sometimes yes, even anger but that was always a very minor part of our world. Every day, every week, every year we are together we have gotten stronger because of one another. I truly would not be the woman I am today, doing what I do, without him. When I need to be pushed, supported, held, comforted, or told No, he does it. I have always said, he is the one man who can tell me No, that I will actually listen to lol.
I do not know how to be Me without him and I hope I never have to find that out. We both talk about our fears of losing each other, to whatever act would separate us, and we both know that it can happen at any moment, but we also know understanding that, and keeping that little bit of “what if he finds someone else” fear around is what keeps us on our toes. Nothing in this world is permanent and we both know that very well.
For our 18th Anniversary celebration we are taking a road trip to California so I can see where Greg grew up, explore new cities and get some ocean time in. We both love the beach and taking a road trip in my new car together will be exciting. We have traveled together many times over the years, but this will be the first real road trip we have ever done, we usually just fly some place.
Greg proposed to me on Leap Day (Feb 29) 1996 (which I incorrectly thought was Sadie Hawkins Day) but a year later we got our first tattoos, together. So in celebration of our 18 years of wedded bliss we will both be getting ink by one of the most amazing tattoo artists we know, Derek Alvarado. The only set point of our road trip is seeing Derek on our anniversary, I met D many MANY years ago through EverQuest and he has been a very dear friend ever since. He set things in motion with Greg and I that to this very day, help Greg and I be the couple that we are today. So while getting new ink is very special to us, seeing D and having him do it for us is truly one of the most exciting points of our trip.
I am sure there will be updates to my Facebook Athlete page and I will definitely post a full update with photos once we return, provided our house sitter or new kitten don’t burn everything down before we get back. I hope you all have a wonderful Halloween and I truly hope each and every one of you find as much happiness in your lives as I have.
I really am the luckiest woman in the world 🙂